Aug. 10, 2001

Dear Financial Partners,

Thanks for your financial partnership in the ministry of Real Men.  Today, I mailed a book proposal for the "Journey to Make God's Story Ours" to Multnomah.  God provided a sponsor from Mission America to help me with proposals to book publishers.  This Mon, I have an opportunity to speak to the staff at Lincoln Christian.  Please pray for these things!

On Tues, Aug. 21st, Ken Tucker of Gallup will present a free workshop called "Creating a Great Work Place."  It will be held at College View Church, 4015 S. 49th, from 7 p.m. to 10 p.m.  Go through the double glass doors.  Please RSVP if you desire to come or want to invite someone else.  More details on attached page.

 Here are some excerpts from the "Journey to Make God's Story Ours":

We should ask ourselves, “What do I want to become?”  The world tells us to climb the corporate ladder, accumulate riches, and retire early.  Should we focus on acquiring possessions or investing in relationships?

First, God's plan is different than the world's.  He desires us to have a close relationship with Him.  In the Godhead, perfect fellowship occurs between God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit.  He made male and female in His own image as the high point of creation, so they could make Him visible on earth.  (Image (bara) is mentioned three times in Gen.1:27).  

From the beginning, God has blessed His creation and called mankind to be fruitful and multiply in order to subdue the earth. 

Gen. 1:26-28: Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over . . . all the creatures that move along the ground.” 27So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.  28God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over . . . every living creature that moves on the ground.”

.There is a mixture of plural/singular nouns and verbs, illustrating the plurality within a singular Godhead.  God desired a representative on earth who could reflect His glory.   He designed man and woman to emulate the relationship between the Father Son and Holy Spirit.  The intimacy and oneness in the Godhead is the model relationship that husbands and wives should follow in order to reflect God’s image. 

On a recent survey, 70 percent of respondents reported feeling lonely most of the time.  "It is not good for man to be alone" (Gen. 2:18).  This was God's pronouncement, even though Adam had a perfect relationship with God in a perfect environment. 

Gen. 2:8-10: Now the LORD God had planted a garden in the east, in Eden; and there he put the man he had formed. 9And the LORD God made all kinds of trees grow out of the ground—trees that were pleasing to the eye and good for food. In the middle of the garden were the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. 10A river watering the garden flowed from Eden; from there it was separated into four headwaters.

Adam still missed something -- he had human intimacy needs.  God declared that it was not good for Adam to be alone and gave him a suitable helper, Eve, to fill the emptiness.  Suitable refers to perfect counterpart to do assigned duties. He put them both in a perfect environment, which He declared good.  Adam and Eve cultivated and kept the garden in perfect relationship with God.

Gen. 2:15-18: The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. 16And the LORD God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die.” 18The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Gen. 2:20b-25: But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. 22Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 24For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. 25The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

The ideal of spiritual, emotional and physical intimacy is God's plan.  Without adequate emotional skills and awareness, adults often enter marriage hopeful for deep emotional closeness, but unable to achieve it.  Husbands may go through the right motions.  They may greet their wives with a hug.  They may tell them, "I love you."  They may take them to dinner.  They may buy them gifts.  Yet underlying it all, they still feel empty and numb -- committed to their wives, but with little love, romance and affection. 

Couples often drift into separate worlds, a man absorbed in his business or hobbies, a woman escaping into the role of "super mom" or endless other activities.  Many try to live out their dreams through their children.  Other couples put too much energy into creating super children, and it can harm the relationship between the husband and wife.

If man seeks the good in a way other than what God says, he will be left to his own abilities.  The result is sin and the withholding of blessings. 

Stu Weber from Tender Warrior: Four Pillars of Manhood

1.  King: Never a Tyrant (Gen. 2:15-19)

           Pro-visionary: creates climate so people
                  can flourish
                  Cares deeply

 

      2.  Warrior: Never a Brute (Gen. 3:17)

           Protector: develops spiritual soldiers
           Contends courageously

3.  Mentor: Never a Know-It-All (Gen.  
     2:17; 3:9)

                  Teacher: develops direction for people
                  Communicates transparently

       4.  Friend: Never a Smotherer (Gen. 2:18-25)

             Companion: keeps promises
             Connects deliberately

       


Presenter: Ken Tucker of Gallup
(Biography on Back)

Tues, Aug. 21st

7 p.m. to 10 p.m.

College View Church
     4015 S. 49th St., Lincoln

Go through double glass doors

Need RSVP by Aug. 20th

No Charge!